R.e.a.lize the Reality of Low Self-Esteem

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In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall self-appraisal of their own worth.

Recognizing the reality= seeing yourself for who you are, where you are at this very moment. It is about embracing and celebrating your strengths, and working with your weaknesses.

If I am 4’8, I am not going to become depressed because I’m not the best candidate to be a runway model, likewise if I am not the star athlete, but I am a great student, I’m not going to become depressed at the fact I’m not volleyball captain. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, ups and downs.

The first step to boosting low esteem is to stop and evaluate yourself where you are. Before we begin this process, it is important to find out what self esteem really is... 


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The PHONY: this is the person who smiles and acts successful but is really scared of failure. This guy or girl is always scared of their true identity being discovered. Phonies need constant successes to keep up a their great facade, which can snowball into problems with perfectionism, procrastination, competition, and burn-out...(Picture courtesy of Katie Tegtmeyer) 

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The OUTLAW: You’ve met this person before…they act like the opinions or feelings of others, good or bad, don’t even matter. These kinds of people live non-stop always feeling like they’re not “in the crowd” or “good enough” Outlaws need to prove that other’s criticism don’t hurt, this attitude of low self esteem can result in lack of self-responsibility, fighting authority, and breaking the law.(Picture courtesy of Porcelaingirl)

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THE WASHOUT: The person who just can’t deal with the real world and acts helpless AND defeated. Usually this person uses insecurity and self pity as an excuse for directly taking responsibility of their own life and changing it. Washouts absolutely depend on others for guidance which can lead to gullibility, underachievement, and a dangerously excessive reliance on others in relationships.(Picture courtesy of Jessie Mach)


Low inner-confidence can have devastating consequences.

  • It can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased likelihood for depression.
  • It can cause problems with friendships and relationships
  • It can seriously DAMAGE academic and job performance.
  • It can lead to under-achievement and increased vulnerability to drug and alcohol abuse and sexual promiscuity.

What does low self-esteem have to do with things such as teenage oral sex, depression, anxiety, drug abuse, and eating disorders ...the answer is A LOT.

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After realizing your reality, the next step in the GET R.E.A.L system you should take to boost your self-esteem is to Engage Yourself in Positive Thinking